If you truly want to learn how to survive the affair and get past your partner’s cheating, I can help you. Read this page immediately!
When I heard that my wife was having an affair, it was like someone had just hit me on the head with a baseball bat, and I definitely didn’t see it coming. I felt numb and paralyzed. I couldn’t even feel my body. I remember thinking “How could this be? This is the person I trusted with my life! She’s cheating on me?‼! She’s sleeping with somebody else? This can’t be happening. I’m going to wake up from this nightmare…”
Your experience and mine may be very similar. You’re probably feeling like your world got completely blown to pieces, or someone just stuck a knife in your back. I nearly lost my mind.
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You could be the absolute best spouse you can be, year in and year out, BUT you can still be cheated on.
I know this shouldn’t be true, but it is. The fact is – being a good partner in a relationship today has more to do with understanding how accountable both partners really are, AND constantly investing your time and heart to keep the relationship open, and honest, but also interesting. Blind trust doesn’t work.
For years I ignored this concept. I thought my dedication and honesty as a good husband gave me permission to trust my spouse 100%, no questions asked. I never felt threatened and never questioned anything – I had complete trust and confidence, and why shouldn’t I? We had exchanged vows…until death do us part.
Discovering that your spouse is having or had an affair is one of the most painful things you’ll ever feel. It’s enough to drive you into uncontrollable rage, sadness, denial, and a feeling of worthlessness. You’ll find yourself going in and out of numbness, shock, grief, anger, and even despair.
But, you must listen to what I’m going to tell you, and listen very carefully. This is worth more than most things you’ll ever read in any book… and it will be a huge step in your process to recovery – NEVER blame yourself for what happened. Never!
Yes, there are two people in your relationship (it takes two to tango, as the saying goes), and there may be areas that need some work, but you certainly did not push your spouse into an affair. No matter what you may be feeling or might have been told, your partner chose to… Read more…